Attentiveness is one of the things that make a great marriage, don't you think? Some of these are so simple you may have forgotten how powerful they are.
- Ask. Are you warm? cold? tired? hungry? Do you need anything while I'm up? These are questions that say I care. When I'm perplexed or distressed, my favorite question from Ted is, "What do you need from me?"
- Listen carefully and with full attention. Don't multi-task when you have an important conversation going on. Whatever it is, it can wait.
- Eye contact. Once in awhile Ted will let me babble on for paragraphs without any acknowledgement. When I look up to see if he's listening, he smiles as if he were waiting the whole time to look in my eyes. (oops!)
- Smile. I love to see the same sweet grin I saw when we were dating, and I'm sure he does, too!
- Primp. Some women touch up their makeup or their hair just before hubby comes home so that they always look their best. Sometimes I keep my dress clothes on from work until he gets home because I know he likes that. But looking good is not all on the outside...
- Attitude. What kind of attitude do you wear? Are you focusing on the positives or always finding something that's not quite right?
- Greet. Stop what you are doing and make it a priority to greet him when he returns. Tell him you are happy to see him and to be with him.
- Always kiss goodnight. (It's such good advice, they made a plaque with those words!)
- Gratitude. Watch for the good things and communicate your appreciation.
- Don't guess. What makes you feel loved? What makes him feel loved? It's not a bad idea to have this conversation!
Dear God, thank you for this wonderful man that you gave me. I sure love him. Help me never to take him for granted. Fill me and refuel me and help me to love him well.