When that happens, I need to humbly ask myself if there is truth in that comment. What can I learn from it? Maybe the comment seemed cruel, but is there a kernel of truth in the midst of it?
After giving some serious thought, if I do not see truth in it for me, can I see that the person who made the comment is hurting? Is there something I can do to lessen that hurt?
Then I must remember to put that one negative comment in perspective. Sometimes it makes sense to throw out an odd data point -- at least throw it out off the treadmill in my mind. It should not bring me down to the point of self-deprecation and self-doubt. (This would be the work of the enemy.) I can remember I am made in God’s image, that I am striving each day to walk in the Spirit, and that I am not perfect but growing every day. I ask the Lord for help in representing Him well. I remember that He is in the process of completing the good work He has begun (Phil 1:6).
The importance of preserving the quiet in our lives is that we take time to process these affronts and not let them build up or threaten to destroy us. In the quiet, I will find God’s perspective again. I see more clearly the truth as He sees it, and feel His wonderful affirmation of who I am and what I am made to be.
Gracious God, thank you for working in me, for loving me and affirming me. Thank you that you don't give up on me. These difficulties remind me to press in and press on. You are still the one in control and I will trust in you.